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Why Rich Handsome Men Marry Unattractive Women

Why Rich Handsome Men Marry Unattractive Women


Why do rich attractive men end up going sometimes
for plain looking women. Now I’m going to really investigate this mystery
and really find out exactly how it works and why these men end up choosing these women. But on top of it the big question will still
remain. Should we as aspiring women who want to level
up. Should we just put the whole level up on hold
because clearly plain women also have a chance? Let’s find out in today’s video. Welcome to the school of affluence. My name is Anna and I run an online finishing
school called the School of Affluence. There I help women achieve elegance and navigate
successfully in the high society. If you’re interested in starting this type
of transformation join the schoolofaffluence.com and of course if you’re new to this
channel, subscribe. I upload weekly content on the topic of the finer things in life luxury
lifestyle and levelling up as a woman. First things first, girls. Why do rich men choose plain looking
women? Now we first have to understand that this
is not the most common practice. Majority of the times rich men afford to be
selective so they usually end up going for more beautiful women. That is usually the norm. However you do have a smaller group of rich
attractive men who do go for and more plain looking, more simple women. In some cases even unattractive women. Now unattractiveness is of course related. There are no women who are actually ugly. It’s just that we have particular beauty standards
set and I am generalizing it and talking about what’s conventional beauty. And when people
go against the conventional beauty norm, then that’s kinda what we’re investigating here. Now secondly, you all know that I always say
that the world is very multifaceted, three dimensional, people are different. There isn’t one-size-fits-all approach and
that is exactly the case in this situation as well. So there isn’t just one reason to why rich
attractive men choose a plain looking woman. There are many reasons to that. And you have to look at the man in deeper
picture. You have to look at his character, his current
situation, his age, his culture, his upbringing. So the first thing that comes to my mind and
actually other people’s minds as well when we discuss this topic, is how insecure the
man is. You see many men just as women can be insecure
and I think it’s a little bit of a myth that women are more insecure than men. Actually if you look around you will see that
many men have a lot of insecurities. It’s just that they don’t really express these
insecurities verbally as much as women do. So these insecurities often go unnoticed but
they still exist. Now in this case a man’s insecurities can
affect this case in two different ways. Now the first way, a man who is very insecure
about himself might not realize actually what a catch he is. He might think that he’s not attractive, although
he’s handsome, he’s rich, and all woman will die to be with him but he just doesn’t know
it. He can’t see it. He devalues himself meaning he also devalues
kind of his criteria is for one he’s looking for a partner. Usually when we search for a partner we search
for somebody who is kind of within our own league. So in this case a man would go below his league
because he thinks that he belongs in the lower leagues. Now the different parts of an insecure man
choosing a less attractive partner can actually be for something that is more have to do with
control. A man who is very insecure with himself feels
that he doesn’t want to have a very attractive partner because that makes him feel even more
insecure. So for him to be in control over his partner,
he chooses a partner who is less attractive, so that he feels more safe with her like this. He knows that men are not going to be approaching
her. She’s not going to cheat on him. She’s not going to just run off, so he can
just relax and have a peace of mind. You see a lot of people actually prefer this. That is also a separate reason to why some
men end up going for less attractive women because they just want to play it safe. As we’re speaking about this whole control
and insecurity issue that men have there is actually a third very common reason. Now some
insecure men have jealousy issues. They might really feel like they have to have a woman
who for sure is not going to run off, for sure they have full control of, so that they can
feel less jealous. Basically that controls their own jealousy if they control the woman. Now that start on insecurities we also have
to understand that not everybody finds beauty the same way. There’s actually been research done on this
when they have showed all kinds of different women two different men. Men really disagree when it comes to beauty
and looks of women. Some men can rate a women, only give her one point, while another
one will give her a five points. And it does happen all the time. Even the girls that are perhaps not conventionally
beautiful, men would still rate them as like ten out of ten. You have to understand that not everybody
thinks that Angelina Jolie is beautiful. It’s really just an individual preference
and choice. Some like oranges, some like apples. So a girl
that is perhaps playing looking or unattractive in some people’s eyes, might be actually very
attractive in this man’s eye. So if a man is with a plain Jane, he might
not be seeing her as a plain Jane because her appearance to him is very very attractive
while to the rest of the world. Nobody’s understanding it. And I think that in today’s society with all
beauty norms we have it’s so hard to understand and accept that this is how it is. We really think that there is just one way
and no other way. And that’s also what’s causing us a lot of
anxiety and why everybody ends up looking the same way, which is a bit of a shame actually
because there is something for everyone out there and people do like it differently. Even the rich men. Now putting beauty a little
bit aside. We also have to understand that people have different preferences when they’re
looking for a partner, they might not be valuing beauty as the number one. You might know that
I speak quite a lot about the fact that, which is a biological fact, that men tend to value
beauty as their number one preference when choosing a mate. And women value all the financial material
and status side of a man as the number one. And those are usually our differences. However, we have to also accept the fact that
not all men are equally made in terms of testosterone in terms of how they are choosing a mate. Not all men are obsessed about beauty and
looks. Majority of men are but not all of them. So when we’re seeing these couples, there are
perhaps other things that this man finds sexy, or turns him on, or he values, or he prefers
in a partner. Those things can be maybe assertiveness, or
wisdom in a person, or intelligence, or how she is as a caregiver, or how she’s in bed. I mean there are many reasons that make a
person. It’s not only beauty and looks ,even though
beauty and looks are important obviously because humans are quite visual, but it’s not everything. And humans are multifaceted. So there are so many sides to us that play
an important role. And some men just end up choosing those other
sides and valued them higher than the actual looks. Another thing to think about, this is very
common with the high society especially in the old money or family money category of
rich people. I and many times have witnessed average women
like plain Jane deluxe, you know, very unattractive perhaps, is with a handsome man who comes
from a very nice background, very rich and very respected in the social scene. And you’re like sitting there wondering: “What
went wrong here?!” In the high society especially with family money, old money families, the man
of such upbringing would really value other assets of a woman than necessarily her
beauty. His family might have educated as he was growing
up that he has to find the woman for him obviously who makes him happy and blah blah blah. But a woman who comes from a well educated
background perhaps, who comes from the perhaps right family, or has a particular path in life. So a wealthy man of that kind will put that as his top preference when
he’s looking for a partner. And the beauty aspect of it will come secondary. I think all of you have heard about how timing
is everything when it comes to finding a mate. Did you know that actually to nail down a
guy for a serious relationship or marriage is usually just bound to timing? Yeah. Some people call it pure luck but its timing,
really. It’s hard especially these days to nail down the guy and you know, to secure a
guy. Because men have become extremely spoiled. Men have many many options and women give
it up too easy for men. The roles have shifted dramatically in our
modern society. However, if you manage to catch a man in the
moment where he’s weak or vulnerable and you manage especially to reach his heart during
this time that’s usually when you are securing the guy. So sometimes when these plain looking women. They might have just secured the guy by timing
because they were there at the right time in the right moment. Maybe being his friend. Maybe dating him casually, and he was vulnerable. He was weak. Maybe there were things going on in his life.
These women could have just been very lucky that they caught him in that moment and they
managed to hook him. Regardless of how she looks like. There is
one particular type of guy. I know for a fact they are very common like
in the model industry but you also have them in the high society. A guy who is obviously very good looking
but who is tired of the superficiality around his looks and maybe also tired about being
a little bit objectified for his looks. All the attention can sometimes drive a person
sick of it and they want to do the opposite, which is why I tend to call this guy ‘the rebel
of the looks’. So he decides to find a partner based on other
criteria is totally different from everything that he has experience. Now that goes a little bit hand in hand when
you have the type who is just tired of shallowness in general They might not be so tired about
all the fixation about their own looks but they just want to have more depth into their
life. A lot of the times these guys have already
dated like models, I don’t know, celebrities, they tried it all,
and they realized that actually a lot of the times all these beautiful girls are perhaps
very self obsessed, very shallow, not very intelligent, and just really obsessed about wealth
and status. So they end up wanting to have somebody who
is more down to earth for that reason these guys seek out women who are just a little
bit less attractive, so that they feel they are able to find that depth. So lastly, there is one more category type
of man that I’ve come across. And this type of category I usually tend to stay away from
it because I find them a little bit odd. The guy who wants all the limelight on himself.
Now this is usually the more narcissistic personality. The guy who wants to be the center
of attention. Even in the relationship. Now in most relationships we do understand
that the woman is usually the center of attention. The woman is the queen. The woman is the one who carries the beauty. That’s why I find this category of man to
be a little bit disturbing because he wants to be the center of attention. He’s a proper attention seeker who either
is so insecure that that’s how he feels appreciated and loved and he cannot share that spotlight
with anybody else but himself. That reason he chooses to get a less attractive
woman so that all eyes can be on him. Now I’m very curious girls sharing the common
section let me know exactly what you think around this topic. Why do you think rich handsome men go for
the plain looking woman. Now I promise you to answer the very important
question that I know a lot of ladies especially in my own life finishing school are dying
to find out. So if I’m trying to level up should I just
not bother? If plain looking women can do it then why
should I personally obsess so much about leveling up. Clearly you can get by regardless. My answer to this ladies is, the more you level
up, the more opportunities you will have. Yes, you should bother because the better your
looks are, the more assets you will have. Meaning that the more opportunities will land
in your lap you will have a bigger selection of men to choose from and you will have more
benefits in the society because society tend to be more rewarding to beautiful people. That’s just how it works. I don’t know why I did not create this rules
but this is how it is. So let’s play by the rules in our benefit. And that’s basically what this is all about. So I don’t want you to take a step back now
and relax with your looks. I still want you to nurture yourself look
your best especially so you can feel your best. But most importantly, don’t forget to level
up all layers of yourself. Not only the looks and if you’re interested
in levelling up and really have guidance and direct coaching from my hand then join school
of affluence dot com. This was the end now of the video. I hope you enjoyed it! Don’t forget to like this video, if you enjoyed
it, and to comment. And of course to subscribe. If you still haven’t done so. Girls I will see you in the next video.


Reader Comments

  1. I've worked in finance and dealt with a lot of wealthy clients. In almost every case I've encountered where the woman is less physically attractive than her male partner, her mind more than makes up for it. These men are not insecure. They want a woman who is sharp and intelligent and is not there to take his money because she is out there making her own bank. These women are in finance, enterpreneurs, attorneys, surgeons, executives, i.e. high power individuals.

  2. If a man is used to all the beauty, perhaps a "plain Jane" with a unique personality makes her stand out from the rest or something he had never seen before

  3. Gawd i looove this channel ❤
    I agree with everything you said. You even spoke about each type in the correct order as per my own observations.
    It usually is a control thing. Plain, stupid or fat etc. He knows he can do or say whatever he wants and she won't go anywhere.
    Sad but true.
    Intelligence, humor and empathy, that's why men love me. I am androgynous in facial appearance. When i get to talk to rich, intelligent men, one on one, they swoon. Not bragging, just pointing out that looks are most definitely not always the biggest factor. Confident men love intelligent women. Weak males are emasculated and turned off by us.
    Your videos are so good. I can imagine how amazing and transformative your course is. Talk about a self investment 👑

  4. Wow this video made me feel better now.. i have this rich and good looking guy who support me and help me grow my business im just plane jane and i have insecurities and thinking that he can get any pretty girl and younger than me anytime but im wondering why he still trying to connect with me weve been sleep together but i dont have the confidence since he is verty attractive and wealthy…now he want to vome and visit me again and thinking how to get him to be officialy in relationship with him…im simple lady and down to earth but im very ambitious lady.

  5. I know a man who married a woman who looks like a transsexual but she wasn’t she is so masculine for a woman she was constantly called a man or transphobic slurs

  6. in my experience alot of men actually like to marry natural looking women. In affluent social circles where there are women trying to bag a rich guy they usually make themselves up to the point thier natural features arent visable anymore. In a ' plain jane' you are seeing what your getting so to speak. Some women try too hard making themselves up outwardly to the point they neglect other aspects of themselves. Guys like girls that are genuine and not afraid to show their true self, women who are so confident they are not going out of their way to 'impress' anyone. i never really understood why other people are 'suprised' by someones partner choice anyway. Its up to them. They have a chemistry between them that no one else needs to understand

  7. Did you know that from Sex and the City Charlotte was the most desiered charahter men choose by majority in different poles! Men love ”plain” look

  8. "So the first thing that comes to my mind and actually other people's minds as well…. is how insecure the man is."
    Actually, the first thing that comes to my mind is that this guy likely is low on vanity/narcissism. Some people aren't that impressed with beauty.

  9. I guess there is a variation in the behavior of narcissists, but most try to get the most beautiful woman they can, because she is an extension of the value they ascribe to themselves. Hence, "trophy wife."

  10. Wow! Secure a guy when he s vulnerable and week?! Girls, put your efforts into developing careers and yourselves rather than having it as a goal to find a rich man. You can make your own money. Respect, compatibility and love are the most important in a relationship if you want a happy life and peace in your hearts.

  11. There are plenty of women that are beautiful AND smart as well. I’ve read some of the comments assuming that ALL smart women are plain Janes, but what she said here doesn’t exclude the fact that many (perhaps most) rich men marry beautiful women, and for the most part these are also smart women. It’s actually rare that a wealthy young good looking man marries a woman just for her looks, as they need the peace of mind that the woman will be wise in keeping the fortune and family.

  12. you forgot #5 fetishes…..I am a BDSM submissive. My partners like to tie me up and not all women are into that.

  13. Amazing isn't it? I've noticed that both men and women that are attractive often get with the lesser attractive! Wierd! I think they think they won't get cheated on and gets more attention from the lesser attractive mate!……also they get All the attention when they're out and about!! I dated numerous men who were attractive but felt not noticed as much when I was around…..they didn't like it much!!

  14. I think a man would marry a more plain looking woman because she may possess other amiable qualities and she 100% makes him feel good. Many men follow their feelings these days.

  15. Yeah, men date down because they don’t want a women who is a 10 banging the neighborhood and taking off with their money.

  16. I may be too shallow, but I don't understand how an attractive man with money would marry an unattractive woman. A woman represents a man and that includes her natural beauty. When you have a drop dead gorgeous woman everyone gives you respect and look up to you, but with an unattractive woman or a woman less attractive than you are people always wonder why you are with her and that's what happened to me. I'm a solid 9 (no bragging) and dated a woman who was a 5 at best.

  17. I am pretty sure that plain Jane also has some status and money 😜 and he benefits from it too. Tbh men these days are also gold diggers

  18. I observed a reasonably attractive guy married to a really rough, overweight, greasy stringy haired woman who swore and was generally rude and disrespectful to him. She did not appear particularly intelligent or having any significant qualities. It made me think, what on earth happened? I saw a documentary on an experiment on why beautiful women go for unattractive men and the science suggested it was to do with hormones and pheromones, but I you are right, it's more complex than simple chemistry.
    Love your channel xxx

  19. I was & still am a 10/10 but that never increased my chances in my career or even scoring in other fields, I am also very smart & have an MBA & speak 5 languages& come from a high end family, NONE OF THAT HELPED ME, it's all Allllll about your psychology, hands down it's the number one!!!

  20. Its like 50 shades of grey he fell in love with plane jane because of the control and beauty is in the eye of the beholder!

  21. Women which are into this type of content are unattractive per se, they might be pretty but they are still unattractive. Attractive guy will go for attractive women, because only attractive people can determine who is really attractive. It's like only a really smart and intellectual person can determine who is really smart, a stupid person is not able to figure it out. Its the same mechanic. So yeah, an average looking girl who works as cashier might be more attractive than super hot girl with a ton of make up, a worthless marketing degree, and even more worthless youtube wisdom about relationships.

  22. It is hard to be attractive in London as men just want to use you for one thing. I have seen very plain unattractive women with men in London. The dating scene here is terrible.

  23. When looks are the most important thing on your list, you have a high chance of a failing relationship. These men will say things like "she got fat so im no longer sexually attracted to her." If you look at couples who stay together 40 years they are usually with their best friend. When I was 20 I went for the most attractive woman I could get. Now at 39, I go for the most genuine woman that can build with me, that I can get. Ive broken up with several attractive women in my life to pursue better woman that arent necessarily as societally "hot".

  24. Thank you for your tips and insight, I think you have valid points.. I want a good man / someone who is cute with a kind heart.. seems it’s impossible ):

  25. Ladies stay classy and don't be a kardashian, cause looks may be a temporally thing, but personality and class will always stay

  26. Timing is everything…look at how Meghan Markle bagged a prince. I mean Meghan is no plain Jane but she wasn't an A-lister either. She deffs leveled ALLL THE WAYYYY UP!!!! Socially and economically, sis is the blueprint lol😂😂😂

  27. Rich or poor, men and women are the same, looking for someone to complement them, in every way:a companion, not an accesory

  28. The conventional beauty norm is different all around the globe. There is NO steady consistent idea of beauty world wide. The idea that because someone isn't "attractive" by conventional standards of a particular country does NOT mean she is not on the same level as the man who marries her whether he is rich or not. She may have qualities in her character that trump those of 'conventional' beauties and cause her to stand out among them. An 'unattractive' woman by general standards may actually be the most beautiful in the room who bares the most qualifications.

  29. How do you know if you are part of the plain Jane category? If you are part of the plain Jane is it possible to still level up?

  30. handsome rich men don't usually marry unattractive women. they usually want a woman like that looks as good as they do.

  31. Rich men go for plain women for the same reason that rich women go for plain men: because there is something called love.

  32. Actually, women do as well. You just don’t want the hassle of having a man who will be pursued by other women. It makes you relax and focus on other parts of your life.

  33. i think the guys who are tired of shallowness and looks don't necessarily go straight for "plain janes" rather they become more open to dating women they would never have considered before. Because some plain janes can also be really plain, dull and shallow also.

  34. Ive met many women who are both gorgeous and intelligent. They can hold conversations and be interesting and yet they like to look aesthetically pleasing. It's possible!

  35. Just wanted to say something: being plain looking does not guarantee faithfulness. These type of men should spend more time knowing the person they want to marry NOT have false notions of or about a plain looking person. I’m faithful because of my values not because I’m plain looking.

  36. Anna, you are a very deep thinker and a very competent social behaviour analyst, very intelligent and articulate. I can see why law of attraction works on you.

  37. Men love a challenge. He probably wants to see what makes a 'Plain Jane' tick, only to find out she has money blowing intellect, that totally attracts him.

  38. When I see very good looking people with an average or maybe a somewhat below average person, I automatically think, that "not so great looking person" must be pretty damn awesome in some other attributes, and that is most often the case!
    The so called "average or below average people" (according to society's standards) end up having an amazing personality or are very genuine and just beautiful, beautiful people on the inside that after spending some time talking to them you soon come to find them quite attractive on the outside too!

  39. Sometimes the ladies play the piano beautifully, are very artistic, are very feminine or give them a sense of creating a home or remind them of their mum, some plain women have one singular beautiful thing like eyes, or legs or a killer sharp brain.

  40. I think maybe we’re just working off of different definitions when we say we’re ‘leveling up’. I enjoy looking nice, but I put even more time into growing as a person. Whether it’s learning new things, having experiences that help me grow as a person, or working towards my dreams. Trying to evolve as a person. And so, when I see rich men with a seemingly hollow life (very material-based, surrounded by people who don’t care about them beyond their money and connections), I feel that’s very low-level. There are wealthy people like Bill Gates and Richard Branson who seem to have really ‘leveled up’ beyond just their wealth. Maybe you aren’t yet in a place where that makes sense to you,but we’re all at different places in our journeys and there’s no shame in that 🙏🏻

  41. A lot of wealthy, attractive men have already been there done that with pretty women-slept with, gf's etc…so by the time they are ready for marriage, they are just looking for a good wife and mother first-before looks.
    Some even marry plain janes, and then have affairs with more attractive women! This happens in France with the mistress culture.
    And ofc, the most notorious one; jfk, Jackie O and Marilyn Monroe!

  42. Doesn't matter how hot guys are.. Guys still thinks even plain Janes are out of their league😜just be faithful and nice.

  43. Either way I've seen good looking men cheat on there plan janet wife. So ladies beware they wanna be the only one who looks good and hope you look like crap. So use him and take his money since he not out for love. I say this cause I was use for what I had.

  44. They don't all realize or see themselves as good looking. It's shame we live in such a shallow society that's based on skin deep values.

  45. I’m a classic MN, USA Plain Jane married to a beautiful man. I don’t like wearing jewelry, I can spend hours putting on expensive makeup but it just fades into my skin with no result. Outspoken and honest people who are just getting to know me are amazed that I have a handsome and kind husband. He thinks I am beautiful and outrageously sexy. He even imagines that other men are looking at me when we are out. I have many body deformities (hip dips, thighs that touch, stretch marks, visible veins because of pale skin and if you are up close, cellulite can be seen when I’m wearing swimwear and I didn’t wear a retainer long enough after braces so my bottom teeth are a bit crooked, etc.) I have been dumped or rejected based on all of my deformities in the past by men who are in no way at my husband’s level. I even lose out on business opportunities to more attractive women regularly. In the outside world I’m given the message daily that I’m unattractive and unworthy. At home I’m worshipped like a goddess. Men are mysterious. There is someone for everyone I guess.

  46. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. To you she may be a plain jane, to him she is the most beautiful thing in the world.

  47. I don't know how i got here but i see you women don't know sh_t about what men want and I belive that most of you don't have what a man want

  48. The difference between a plain Jane and a beautiful woman is expensive makeup. I've seen plain Janes go from 0 to 100 in the salon. So in my opinion you're only a plain Jane if u chose not to wear makeup, fashionable clothes and in some cases plastic surgery.

  49. I heard once it's because men care more about how a woman makes them feel, than attraction. Although Attraction is the
    first more popular option, sometimes it doesn't work and like Amelia L. commented men are also attracted to how a woman makes them think.

  50. U are SO WRONG, As a successful man I will give u the real reason, beautiful women are to much work and a bad investment. She will bring 0 to the table and lose her looks in 8yrs this is the reality. Most women believe the better she looks the more a man should give, LMAO

  51. Unfortunately she is not wrong about attractive [not just rich] men choosing plainer women because they are controlling: bullies [which is what they are] chose those they think are easier to isolate, to control and to 'lord it over'. He will expect you to be so grateful for his attention that he will be passive/aggressive, manipulative, neglectful and outright unkind, even cruel or, worse, violent. I am quiet and plain-looking and have occasionally been surprised by attention from attractive men. Though some were sincere, sadly many were often looking for an ego boost. If you find yourself in this situation, my advice is to take it very slow [often it will begin with extravagant attention]: if he is insincere, he will get bored [possibly angry, so be careful] and move on; if he is a nice guy, he will respect you more and you will be able to get to know him better.

  52. This was a good video but I think there was a lot of assumptions I didn’t agree on.
    Like for instance why assume a attractive woman 👩 isn’t intelligent or that she doesn’t have her own money? Real beautiful women don’t need 3 hours to get ready, I spend maybe less then 20 minutes to get ready, I have the features, I strap on a dress and heels 👠 and I’m ready to go. Some days I go makeup free if my skin is really glowing. Anyways I’m also very creative,
    Intelligent and innovative. I don’t believe that people are one diminutional. I don’t believe anyone is just good looking but not smart or smart but not rich. There are a lot of people that are the whole package.

  53. when a woman is super hot in the beginning, when their looks fade it is very traumatic to them and they may seek cosmetic surgery because often their self esteem was so much based on looks which always fade if the man got them for looks only he may leave them when they fade, with plainer women their looks are secondary and when they fade it is not so dramatic or traumatic for either party

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